Each of the 16 hours in which the human being passes awake always will be intervened by the decision making or something transcendental every day. What could be really what you have to consider more than twice before giving an answer?
Everything in life is made up of choices for the day to day of anyone: from what is going to put in the day to go work, to how to make a marriage proposal. All are in a different rank of importance and all of them have different levels of priority depending on the personality and culture of each.
According to a study of Columbia University, there are about 70 decisions that an individual takes daily and with which they have to compromise with the choice made, assuming the respective consequences that each one implies. And this puts people in a constant dilemma, because when they do that process, they have to recognize that there is a possibility of winning, as well as of losing, in relation, above all, to well-being and happiness.
And this also has a lot to do with how the person is: in terms of health or emotional life, as well as cultural, political, religious and ethical factors of each person; Making what for one person may be a “bad choice”, for another is the most appropriate.
Keeping this in mind, LinkedIn influencer Dr. Travis Brad berry, an expert on emotional intelligence and an expert in human talent, points out that there are five types of decisions that you may come to regret all your life, if you have not selected which he considered more convenient for his personal and professional life.
These were selected thanks to the work of a nurse who cared for people who only had 3 to 12 months to live:
About others: When you make a choice of whatever, but without regard to your personal opinion but consulting others, you may be making a big mistake. These kinds of situations tend to be every day in topics such as career choice or love of life, when we always want to have a perception beyond our own and see things that we may not perceive.
Asking for a consideration is a good thing, but do not let your choice be based on those advice you have been told. The expert points out that in this, there are two effects that can occur: on the one hand, wanting the approval of someone or pretending to gain prestige with something, above their true interest and passion. But on the other hand, you also risk your ethics: you can build a prison in which another person thought it was best for you, but that did not turn out to be so.
Before this, consider the opinion of others, but never use it as a main argument when giving the answer, because the effect of guilt and remorse that you may feel later, can be so serious that it does not allow you to march behind.
About work: they will always tell you that it is important to strive in everything you do and that the results of your working life will depend on your performance and the energy you need to do it. Achieving it is difficult, but not impossible. And that’s why you must work hard. But it is there where he makes the mistake.
Most people work hard and spend a lot of time at the expense of the people they love the most, when the irony of it is that they are looking to make them happy. There is no secret in this. Everyone must find the right balance so that he can feel calm and successful in both aspects.
About feelings: maybe this seems to be a cliché, because it is something that is always seen in movies or self-improvement texts. But it’s not just about this. Being able to develop an emotional intelligence is to have a tool for any aspect of your life, understanding feelings as something natural that should not be repressed, otherwise, all that is achieved is that they grow to bursting.
About friends: Sometimes the routine and pressure of work and having the perfect life makes you disconnect from the people who value your company and want to express your affection. This is particularly the case with the old friendships, the ones that you built and that lasted a long time, but which you left because you were “very busy”. The issue with this is that these are the relationships that allow you to stay motivated and de-stressing and that, dedicate a few hours a week, do not generate more impact.
About happiness: it’s the kind of things that you’ve always been told but you never wanted to apply: sometimes the little annoyances, inconveniences or problems that we see as “mortals” really are small things that we decide to suffer and that when you Looks back, realizes that it was not worth as much as he thought.
Of course, there are situations where you will have to vent and live, like a duel or the loss of your work, but when you realize, that energy would have been much more useful in your own projects of happiness, than in spending it on that.